A question that I’ve been asking myself lately when it comes to raising our kids is, “what memories will they have of me?” When my children are grown and looking back on their childhood, what memories will they cherish? What memories will teach them, mold them, and shape them into the men and women they are then? How am I being intentional in the memories that they have?
Reading in Proverbs, you will come along this passage that every parent knows. Proverbs 22:6, “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.” Though never before had I looked at it from this perspective. Our memories and experiences shape us. But how are we as parents making sure that we are shaping our children the best we can to be obedient followers of Jesus? I by no means claim to be an expert, but here are a few things that we are making sure we do as a family.
1. Take Them With You. We believe that if we want our kids to be great servants of Jesus, this means they come along. When I do a hospital visit, or hang door hangers, or even go on a mission trip, we want to bring our children along. We want them to see what it is like to serve Jesus. That they experience daddy and mommy serving King Jesus and they remember what it was like to do so. For some parents, this is really difficult because they are concerned with schedules and other things, but let me ask you this question, isn’t it worth it to keep your kid up an extra hour so they can see you love Jesus?
2. Intentional On What We Say. In Deuteronomy we see Moses telling them to speak of the Law of the Lord with their kids. To teach them. This means as a parent, I am looking for opportunities to talk to my kids about God’s Word. Helping them see how it applies to my day to day life. This also means that I am intentional about what I am putting inside of me, that I am spending time in God’s Word.
3. Make A Plan. This one is the hardest for me, but most essential. What is the vision for my family? Where do I want them to be in a year? What do I want them to experience in a year? These are questions you need to ask in order to come up with a plan to be intentional of accomplishing those visions. You must know the direction that you want to go as a family, how are you molding them, what are the steps you need to take? In order to produce disciples, you must have a plan.
I know this list is not exhaustive, but if you have any other things you would add, put it in the comments!